10 Things I Wish My 18 Year Old Self Knew

Hello everyone. The other evening I was chatting to my man-child about things I use to do as a teen. One story particularly made him laugh, the time I broke the law by drink driving. That night I decided that my date for the evening was far too drunk to drive me home, so logically it would be safer if I drove the car. This is despite the fact that I was also drunk and didn’t have my own driving licence.

*Note the funny bit about the story was me bunny hopping the car along the road at a paltry 10 mph all the way home.*

My boy said he would like to have met 18 yr old Tracey as she sounded quite cool. And I have to agree I really was cool (except the drink drive thing, that was obviously a very uncool thing to do). Although I didn’t realise it at the time.

I was reminded of this thought yesterday when I saw one of those ‘What I Would Tell My Younger Self’ articles online. It got me thinking about what I would tell 18-year-old Tracey. The obvious things that come to mind are big life decisions, leave home, follow your nursing training and don’t marry the short arsehole from Bristol.

However as much as these things might have made me happier at the time, they would have led to a different life than I have today. There are little things however that I think my 18-year-old self could have benefitted from knowing So this is my top 10 pieces of advice to my younger self. 

1) You’re Not Fat

You’re not plump, chunky, chubby or any of the things you think right now. But actually as I write this I want to add something else. Even if you WERE fat that wouldn’t matter. Your worth as a person should never be defined by the numbers on a set of scales or a tape measure. And whatever weight you end up being there will be people out there who think you’re really hot.

2) Blue Hair Rocks

Seriously,  hairdressers and other well-meaning  people will try for years to convince you to go for subtle colour changes. Don’t listen to them, go with your heart and wear the blue (or pillar box red or bright purple). These colours will not only bring out the colour of your eyes, they will reflect the inner you. And you will look awesome.

3) Those Girls Liked You

You know the ones, the girls who are way cooler than you. The ones you assume let you hang around with them because as well as being cool they’re really nice people. Well you’re wrong. They don’t just tolerate you, they actually like you. Further more they will continue to like you as you get older, and even in your 40s (and beyond) you will be friends.

4) You Will Never Regret Your Tattoos

Tattoos will be a big thing in the future, and loads of ladies will have them. Despite what mum thinks you won’t suddenly wake up aged 40 something and think ‘what did I do that for?’ On  a side note, never trust a tattooist that doesn’t have a good few weeks waiting list. THAT bit you will regret.

5) You’re Smart

Cartoon picture of a brain wearing a mortar board hat

I mean really smart. You don’t believe this at the moment because you have grown up with an exceptionally bright sibling. However you have an IQ that puts you in the top 5% of the population and that is not to be sniffed at.

6) You Will Never Like The Taste Of Beer

Or wine, larger or any spirit that doesn’t have a ton of pop in it. You are simply not one of life’s drinkers. So put down that bottle of Newcastle Brown that you’re not enjoying  save yourself some money and buy a glass of cola instead.

7) It’s Not Your Fault

You might think I’m about to divulge some terrible future event now, but that’s not the case. Actually  I’m talking about the small stuff. If someone is a bit grumpy one day it’s not your fault. If they forget to call you it’s not your fault. If something didn’t go quite the way someone expected that’s not your fault……

Are you getting the idea here. You can’t hold yourself responsible for everybody elses happiness or behaviour. Most of the time other peoples moods or behaviour will be caused by something totally unrelated to you. And even in later years when someone is a dick and tries to blame you for their mood or behaviour it’s still NOT YOUR FAULT!

8) Wear Sun Cream

Cartoon picture of a bottle of sun cream and a pair of sunglasses

You have skin the colour of lard, you will burn. You will never in your life get a tan, your only options are dazzling white, white or lobster red. If there is the slightest chance of sun with temperatures over 16 degrees slap on the factor 50.

9) Being Different Is Okay

You feel like you’re quite different from most people, and you’re right. However what you don’t appreciate yet is its okay to be different. Later in your life someone will try to take away your uniqueness. Molding you into a grey old before your time shell of your real self. However the uniqueness will always be there, and in later years you will meet a fabulous bunch of people who embrace their own and other Peoples uniqueness. They are called steampunks and they are your people.

10) You Are Worthy

The hardest lesson you will learn in life, and one that will require constant confirmation from yourself. So I’m giving you a mantra to recite from an early age. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of friendships. You are worthy of happiness.

Turquoise background with the words you are worthy

So that is the advice I would give a younger me. What would you want your younger self to know?

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12 Comments

  1. Willflirtforfood

    August 15, 2018 at 10:14 pm

    This is a fantastic post! I wish I’d known all this at 18! (I’d also go for don’t marry the arsehole – should have read this 10 years ago!) x

  2. Lucy At Home

    August 15, 2018 at 9:53 pm

    Some great advice here – please can you nip back and tell this stuff to my 18 year old self too while you’re at it?! Haha. The “It’s not your fault” one seems particularly relevant as it’s still something I struggle with – the idea that I’m not responsible for everyone else’s happiness or sadness.

    And someone else obviously really enjoyed this post too because they chose to add it to the BlogCrush linky. Congratulations! Feel free to grab your “I’ve been featured” blog badge 🙂 #blogcrush

  3. Lisa Pomerantz

    August 10, 2018 at 10:59 am

    What a great post, and, of we only knew then… how wise and how much easier would things have been. Great post, Tracy, xoxox #mixitup xoxo

  4. Rose Tinted Ramblings

    August 9, 2018 at 8:49 am

    Tracey I love this post and every single item on your list. Its all so true to how (I think now) every 18 year old girl feels). #mixitup #blogcrush

  5. Melissa Baxter

    August 7, 2018 at 10:31 am

    Wise words, Mrs A. I particularly like the part about not listening to hairdressers! #MixitUp

  6. RaisieBay

    August 6, 2018 at 9:14 pm

    The 18 year old you doesn’t sound too bad at all, just lacking a bit of confidence. It’s so sad that so few young women meet men that are right for them. I get jealous of women who managed to stay with their first loves forever. Mine was a twat and to think I married him before I was 20, I was a twat too! Not sure about the tattoos though, my first one was a disaster and I never had any more. 🙁 Your friends sound great though, how wonderful you’ve stayed friends for so long.
    On the whole, sound advice, yup even the blue hair bit.

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 6, 2018 at 9:20 pm

      My brother managed that elusive thing, he married his girlfriend from school and they are still happily married almost 30 yrs on (from school, been married about 25)

  7. Rosie Doal

    August 6, 2018 at 3:06 pm

    So many things I wish I could also go back and tell my 18-year-old self. And yes – blue hair is perfectly fine! #MixItUp

  8. pragmaticpoe

    August 6, 2018 at 2:19 pm

    I love this! Most people look at these questions as a way to fix actions of the past rather than perceptions of reality. Perception is all that really matters!

    #mixitup

  9. endardoo

    August 6, 2018 at 1:25 pm

    Pretty sound advice, I’d have to say, Mrs blue-haired, steampunk, whatever you’re having yourself Mrs Hook and Dragons and whatever else you wish to be #MixItUp

  10. Bryony Shaw

    August 6, 2018 at 10:02 am

    Being different really IS OKAY!

  11. Pickinguptoys

    August 1, 2018 at 7:07 am

    Aww, I love the older and wiser Mrs A blue hair an’ all 😂 I definitely agree with the tattoo one, I made that mistake too! t’s mad to think that we could have made different choices and had different lives altogether.

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