The Problem with Having Big Boobs

Hello everyone, I hope you are all well and not suffering too much from the dreaded Monday blues. Anyone who follows me on Twitter will know I spent yesterday shopping for bras. They will also be aware as I tweeted about it, this activity caused me a great deal of rage.  24 hours later I am calmer,  but still annoyed about the whole bra buying thing, and this is why……..

I have large boobs……… When I say large, I don’t mean just quite big, I mean HUGE. I do in fact share the same cup size as Jordan at her biggest, but mine are all natural (meow!!). This in itself isn’t the cause of my rage. I quite like my boobs actually.

When they are properly hoisted and draped in a gorgeous top, they do indeed look rather splendid. There are however downsides to owning these beauties. Some of these are unavoidable and as such I have learnt to tolerate them over the years. Things such as the inability to eat food of any sort without wearing half of it by the end of the meal. It is a simple fact, however close you sit to your bowl or plate, your boobs will always be in the way. I now resort to covering my ample chest with napkins when going out to eat.

The one downside of having large boobs that I have not learnt to accept over the years is the trouble buying bras. There is a greater choice of outlets for the larger chested lady these days, but by and large these are online retailers, and I don’t like shopping for clothing online.

Living as I do fairly close to the city of Gloucester (great city for cathedrals, rubbish for bra shopping) I knew there would be only one department store that would likely have anything my size in stock. So off we trotted to the lingerie department  of our local Debenhams (we are me and the hubby. He is actually a very good shopping partner).
We were greeted by a vast display of underwear. There were delicate pinks,  blues and greens.  Sexy purples, reds and blacks. Stripes, spots and florals. Lace, silk and ribbons.

But …….no…….wait…….. this delectable display of gorgeous underwear was not for the likes of me, these were only available for ladies with ‘normal’ sized boobs.  At the very back of the shop was a display of underwear for ‘The fuller bust’. There was no silk. No ribbons, or embroidery or lace. The colour rage was limited. Very limited. You could have BLACK…… WHITE……. OR BEIGE. A whole wall of bras in these three colours.

Well im sorry, but my rage was quite well developed at this point and there was no way I was going to buy anything from that range, and was ready to flounce out of the store in disgust.  However my hubby is a far calmer character than me, and he suggested taking our time to look at the other displays to see if there was anything that did go up to my size.

And fair play to him, he did manage to find three pretty silky bras that went up to my size in colours that I liked, and we did think we were going to be successful. Alas, this was not to be. The thing that prevented me purchasing these items was THE COST!!!

Now I am not stupid. I  realise I cannot expect to pay Primark prices for my underwear (how I envy people who can buy their bras in Primark) but what is so damn special about a bra that it warrants you spending £50 on it!!!!!

When buying clothes, I can understand when they charge extra for larger sizes. There is significantly more material and  time involved in making a plus sized dress for example. However there is no way they can justify the hikes in prices for larger cup underwear based on increased materials.

The makers of bras  are unscrupulously blackmailing larger breasted ladies. If you want to look pretty and feminine you will have to pay our extortionate prices because you don’t have the option of shopping elsewhere.

So to finish my tale of bra shopping,  I did not give in to this blackmail, primarily because I couldn’t afford to. So now i am the ‘proud’ owner of several new bras in, yes you guessed it, black, beige and white. Hence the rage I felt on return from my shopping trip yesterday.
Do any of you suffer from what Twitter has coined #bigboobproblems? Or have you have found somewhere to buy bras that doesn’t cause you rage?

As always I would love to know what you think about my post, so please make me smile by adding a comment or two Xx

37 Comments

  1. Emily

    July 13, 2015 at 4:57 pm

    I feel your ample chest pain.
    I have now found marks is the only place that do beautiful very large bras.
    I have a hole draw full. However I haven’t yet worn them all as I still go back to the comfy plain black and white ones haha.

    1. Dragon Stuff

      July 13, 2015 at 5:00 pm

      I will have to check out Marks next time im in town. There is no denying plain teeshirt bras are the comfiest

  2. unrelentingmayhem

    August 9, 2015 at 2:32 pm

    Having really tiny breasts is also frustrating. I hate going bikini shopping because there’s absolutely nothing my breasts could fill. Having a flat chest isn’t very attractive, you know.

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      August 9, 2015 at 3:23 pm

      Its certainly not easy being either side of ‘average’ is it 😃

  3. thenthefunbegan

    August 18, 2015 at 9:33 pm

    Sorry I didn’t comment sooner! I read this last week and I completely understood where you were coming from – in fact I once wrote a blog post called ‘if I could have three wishes’ and one of my wishes was to have smaller boobs! I hate being forced to pay over the odds for bras but I have recently discovered a nice range in M&S which do 34H (I think I’m actually 32H but they don’t make that size!!) and they are £16 and feel comfy and look pretty too so I’m a happy girl. i agree about Debenhams, I was very disappointed with them earlier on this year. thanks for linking up to #thetruthabout and nice to (virtually) meet you X

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      August 18, 2015 at 9:36 pm

      Alas I am a little bigger than that, so M&S isnt in my range. Thanks for the comment xx

      1. thenthefunbegan

        August 18, 2015 at 9:40 pm

        Aw I feel for you Tracey! It is really disappointing isn’t it? Do you buy online? Sometimes you can get something in the Figleaves or Bravissimo sale. X

        1. The Anxious Dragon

          August 18, 2015 at 9:53 pm

          I prefer to buy in shops as you can get a better look at the products, but think I may have to try online x

  4. SourgirlOhio

    January 2, 2016 at 8:44 pm

    I can’t exactly relate to this, but it was amusing and I feel for ya, hon 😉
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    1. taabrahams73@gmail.com

      January 3, 2016 at 6:38 pm

      It is a real pain xx

  5. franbackwithabump

    April 3, 2017 at 5:39 am

    It does seem big boobs mean frumpy bras and of course it causes problems getting nice tops to fit right too. I know Primark do bigger ones, but not sure how big. Thanks for sharing for #marvmondays x

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 3, 2017 at 6:39 am

      They do a fair size range but not quite this big 😆

  6. stressymama

    April 3, 2017 at 6:09 am

    Did you write this about my sister??? You could have. She has really big boobs and has exactly the same problem. The only shop near us she can shop in is Debenhams and like you said, the prices are extortionate. If she does splash out she only has the bra for a couple of months because the underwired comes out. Every single time! I really feel for you because I’ve been there with my sister and it really gets her down. She also hates the fact that the straps are really wide meaning she can’t wear certain tops.. and she constantly has back ache. Don’t ask me how but she actually weighed them recently and they weighed the equivalent of 6 bags of sugar! No wonder she has back ache. #marvmondays

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 3, 2017 at 6:40 am

      Oh yes, getting stabbed by your favourite bra is a thing too. Im not sure how you weigh boobs either xx

  7. Donna

    April 3, 2017 at 10:10 am

    I’m a funny shape i think! They look quite small, but i’ve got a reasonable cup size, with a small backsize. Many shops just don’t seem to know you can be thin and have boobs. I so often find that only up to a C can you get a 30 inch! Very annoying!

    But then, i have the opposite problems. Low cut tops kinds just gape at the chest unless i wear a hugely padded bra. Which i don’t like. Bra’s are just a pain in the bum aren’t they!? #marvmondays

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 3, 2017 at 10:12 am

      Yes, there is little leeway for those of us outside of the norm 😊

  8. mommyandrory

    April 3, 2017 at 12:37 pm

    I can relate to this post so much. Although my boobs have significantly reduced since having a baby I still struggle to find bras at a reasonable price! #MarvMondays

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 3, 2017 at 1:04 pm

      Mine got bigger after each child!! 😨😨

  9. sarahsurreymama

    April 3, 2017 at 8:57 pm

    I have this same problem, it drives me mad trying to find nice ones that aren’t white or black!! You’ve reminded me that now I have finished BF I can get some new ones… so reading above looks like I need to try M&S xx #marvmondays

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 3, 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Well I think after BF you deserve to splash out and get some really nice ones x

  10. Heather Keet

    April 4, 2017 at 5:21 am

    I have rage even in the stores meant for us large breasted women. They still suck because someone with small boobs designs them, I swear it. Or a man. No way does a large breasted woman design what is in those stores!!! #DreamTeam

    1. Hooks and Dragons

      April 4, 2017 at 5:24 am

      Ha, you think the person designing the bras has large boob envy and does it to be mean , I love it 😂😂 Makes a lot of sense

  11. Lucy At Home

    April 4, 2017 at 2:13 pm

    I TOTALLY understand this! I have big boobs too and, while it has it’s perks (!), it can be a nightmare for many practical reasons. I hate that I have to buy clothes that are several sizes too big to accommodate my boob-age, because I then look a lot frumpier than I am! I also have a lovely selection of white, black & beige bras!

    I tend to go to M&S or Bravissimo. I quite like Bravissimo’s clothing range too, and you can often pick up some decent stuff in the sale there too #dreamteam

  12. Pickinguptoys

    August 28, 2017 at 10:06 am

    I sadly don’t have this problem, I am a Primark bra girl but it’s only in the last year or so I’ve found out I’ve been wearing the wrong size for years though!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 28, 2017 at 11:23 am

      Im so jealous!!!

  13. oldhouseintheshires

    August 28, 2017 at 10:46 am

    This is sooo true on so many levels! Being a fellow Large Boob Lady (LBL) I can relate, especially to the eating issues! When I had my first child and I was learning to breastfeed, a midwife told me my boobs looked like 2 bald men….thanks for that! I had to feed with my child under my arm like a rugby ball. And dont get me started on the cost……#Mondaystumble

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 28, 2017 at 11:25 am

      I recently went shopping to a nearby town and wdnt in a little boutique type shop that advertised underwear in my size. £80 for a bra!!!!! 😨😨😨 I would want a whole bloody outfit for that money 😂😂

  14. Sarah MumofThree World

    August 28, 2017 at 11:28 am

    Sounds like a nightmare. I’m the complete opposite to you! Try looking for attractive bras for a grown woman in a 34A. There aren’t many!
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    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 28, 2017 at 11:40 am

      Ouch…. I can see how thats a problem too

  15. Pen

    August 28, 2017 at 5:51 pm

    I would love to have larger breasts. Mine are small and lopsided. In fact, I recently wrote about them.
    http://www.thesingleswan.com/2017/08/09/breasts-boobs-bazookas-bosoms-baps/
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    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 28, 2017 at 6:33 pm

      I would happily share some of mine if I were able to. I agree that bras are a ridiculously uncomfortable piece of clothing. A necessary evil for me though to prevent them swinging round my knees 😂😂

  16. Roxanne

    August 28, 2017 at 8:30 pm

    I totally get you!! Mine aren’t HUGE but pretty big and I have like 2 that I wear daily as I don’t want to pay loads for new bras!! Definitely feel like I need to invest now though 🙂

  17. Susan Mann

    August 29, 2017 at 11:23 am

    It’s such a nightmare. I’m a tad on the large side, but not massively large, but they are so uncomfortable to buy the right one and get one that fits. Drives me nuts xx

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 29, 2017 at 11:39 am

      Ive got to do that again in the near future. Mine are all threatening to stab me 😣😣

  18. Michelle Kellogg

    August 30, 2017 at 12:09 pm

    I can honestly say I consider myself lucky to have the average breast size (for America anyway-36C) but I during my first pregnancy I went up to 38DD. My back was not happy about that, lol. One of my best friends has big boobs too and I see what she goes through and she also has back problems because of them. Plus shopping for bras is exhausting. In my area they seem to have an over abundance of larger bras and not enough of my size bras. I asked once why they never had my size and they said it was because I share that size with the average American woman so they sell out fast. Gee thanks, lol!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      August 30, 2017 at 12:18 pm

      You would think it would be in their own interest to make sure they always had a good stock of the most popular size x

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