Cocks and Butts………

Good afternoon everyone. I am smiling to myself now as I picturing you all reading the title of this post and wondering where the hell this is going to take you.

Well it would be wrong of me to give away too much at this early point, but settle down and all will be revealed………

Now just yesterday evening I was having a conversation with my beloved about his day at work (he is one of those aweful white van men!) and he was telling me about a particular delivery he did.

The usual person who collects this delivery was not there yesterday,  and instead was a person of who’s gender he couldn’t immediately guess. His dilemma was thus, did he address them as ‘mate’ which is his generic greeting for all male customers or ‘love’ which is how he greets female customers (he never said which he chose).

My initial though was why do you need to use either of them, but then I considered how exactly do you address people when you dont know their names in this day and age, and further more how these terms vary from region to region.

Here in the beautiful Forest of Dean traditional foresters have a vast array of slang words for all sorts of things. The one they use to address another person is ol butt e.g “alright ol butt”. As far as I am aware, this term is not gender specific.

When I was a child living in Kent, the term cock was one I heard occasionally “wotcher cock” and I can clearly remember my nan calling me duck on more than one occasion. 

My fella being from Bristol knows several west country terms for addressing people.  The first being a modification of the term my love. My lover sounds quite endearing when spoken in a west country accent, but I imagine it would cause a fair bit of offence to many people.  The second term is stranger my babba.

This is the extent of my knowledge of regional variations of terms of adress for people, but I would very much like to learn some more, so please let me know which ones you use.

39 Comments

  1. Sam

    July 5, 2015 at 5:13 pm

    I tend to use “lovely”, as in “Hello lovely, how are you ?”. I’ve also been known to use “my love”. I think both stem from my many years living in Wales!

    1. Dragon Stuff

      July 5, 2015 at 5:34 pm

      I have picked up some aweful ones from my kids and their friends. I have called my boss honey before now 😀

  2. Katie

    July 6, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    Having been ‘Ooop North’ for nearly a year, I find myself calling people ‘love’ far more than I used to. ‘Hello love’, ‘You alright, love?’ (to both males and females). Also made a friend up here who originates from Bristol. When I first called her ‘Me babber’ she just said ‘Oh it is so NICE to hear that!’.

    1. Dragon Stuff

      July 6, 2015 at 12:07 pm

      I had never heard the term me babber until very recently, dispite my ex husband being a bristolian

  3. Ian Young

    July 6, 2015 at 8:14 pm

    Here in London, it’s no more than a monosyllabic grunt!

    1. Dragon Stuff

      July 6, 2015 at 8:16 pm

      Aw, I thought you would have lots of cockney type slang words.

  4. ForestFlower

    July 15, 2015 at 11:16 am

    hahaha ‘wotcher cock’ that takes me back…

  5. freakinmerv

    July 28, 2015 at 9:42 pm

    I don’t use any for females for fear of offending them! Love is probably the most common around here, with Duck being used nearby in the Potteries. As for blokes then it’s normally mate but sometimes fella. I like to call my girlfriend Lover in a West Country accent ‘cos I think it sounds brilliant 🙂

    1. Dragon Stuff

      July 28, 2015 at 9:50 pm

      It does sound quite endearing in a west country accent

  6. StudioKaufmann

    August 7, 2015 at 11:35 pm

    He’s really on the horns of a dilemma here. He could say how are ya doing chicken which sounds quite cute. I think a chicken can be male or female but to be honest I don’t know one end of chicken from the other!

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      August 8, 2015 at 2:26 am

      I think he probably went for the My Babba one as thats pretty much unisex

  7. leannelc

    November 24, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    I hate being patronized by people calling me “luvvie” or “darl” or whatever – just say hi and smile – simple and non-confrontational and not gender specific!

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 1:26 pm

      Simple is best xx

  8. Kyles

    November 24, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    This is quite fascinating – I’ve never heard any of these. In my part of the world you can use mate or matey for either male or female. As in “G’day mate” – non-gender-specific. I think people would find it very odd if I addressed them as “my lover” and addressing someone as a “cock” or an “ol butt” probably wouldn’t be taken too kindly. I might run some A/B testing! #abitofeverything

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 1:23 pm

      No I cant imagine that would go down very well in other countries xx

  9. Lynn James

    November 24, 2015 at 2:02 pm

    I often refer to people as ‘lover’ but that because I’m from Cornwall and its normally west country folk I offer this to! I live in Hertfordshire now, I mostly use ‘hon’ and ‘lovely’ Most men folk use ‘mate’..boring! Good post!!

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 6:11 pm

      I saw something the other day, a blog post on how you know your a real blogger. Calling people lovely was one of the criteria 😉 xx

  10. mummyshambles

    November 24, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    I’m a Stokie and everybody is a duck lol
    I once totally confused some lad in a restaurant by asking for ‘the beef please, duck’. He looked at me as if I was nuts and said, ‘Duck isn’t on the menu!’ Ha ha X

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 6:35 pm

      My nan called me duck, but I dont hear it these days. Ive never heard of a stokie xx

  11. mummyshambles

    November 24, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    P.S, I did wonder if this post was X rated lol

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 6:36 pm

      A deliberately enticing title… 😀

  12. relentlesslypurple

    November 24, 2015 at 8:57 pm

    The title cracked me up, great way to draw people in haha! It got me thinking about what I say when greeting people. I hurt my brain a little thinking too much about it so asked the Mr 😛 Apparently my only greeting is ‘you alright?’ with a ‘shy smile’ as he put it. Most people I know say babe or hun used for either sex.

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 10:12 pm

      I use to use honey all the time. I even called my boss it on occasion. Luckily he had a sense of humour xx

      1. relentlesslypurple

        November 24, 2015 at 10:29 pm

        I call people hun when im messaging them but it sounds odd to me if I actually say it? Haha xx

  13. absolutely prabulous

    November 24, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    Man I’m just so easy. Of course I clicked on that post because I was curious and my dirty sense of hummus got the better of me. #abitofeverything

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      That is absolutely definitely not the reason I chose that title *sits looking angelic*

      1. absolutely prabulous

        November 25, 2015 at 12:59 am

        It totally is the reason so you’re totally buying me a drink when we go to that pub, for tricking me into clicking! Only joking. Love what you write. x

        1. The Anxious Dragon

          November 25, 2015 at 4:24 am

          If you ever visit the forest of dean, I will take you on a extended pub crawl (drive) to all my favourite pubs Xx

  14. Modern Belle

    November 24, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    I’m from the South in the States…we LOVE our pet names. And we don’t have to know you to refer to you by one of these pet names.

    Talking with the guy I’m dating last night, we realized we both feel back on the same ones: darling (which pronounced correctly is drawn out and usually the g is dropped), sweetie, sweets, honey, sugar, doll, sweetheart, babe. Yeah, there is a lot of them.

    Most don’t seem to mind it too much, some people hate it (usually Yankees), but it’s who I am so they can suck it 🙂

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 24, 2015 at 11:27 pm

      Oh I have an image in my head now of JR Ewing calling people darlin x

      1. Modern Belle

        November 24, 2015 at 11:30 pm

        Yeah…it’s pretty much exactly it. Darlin’ not darling. Can’t be too proper 🙂

  15. randommusings29

    November 25, 2015 at 12:35 am

    Well that wasn’t what I was expecting haha 🙂 In the north east we tend to use “hun” which I think comes from the Geordie hinny ie honey. It is used for either gender. Personally I use mate as well for either gender. #abitofeverything
    Debbie

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 25, 2015 at 4:21 am

      Mate is a good all rounder and will serve you well should you ever visit down under 😉

  16. Anna Brophy

    November 25, 2015 at 1:05 am

    You had me at ‘Cocks and Butts’….!! He he!!! Great title. I will admit, my 80 year old Father calls anyone whose name he has forgotten, Bucko….charming…. #abitofeverything

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 25, 2015 at 4:28 am

      Its a click bait title for sure, guilty as charged 😉
      Bucko is a new one to add to my list xx

  17. martynkitney

    November 25, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    The title is definitely good at getting people in 😉
    We use a lot of “mate” around here. For both men and women. Although I don’t tend to use it for women. I detest the term buddy and fella for guys. For different reasons. If I’m friendly with a girl I might you chick. But only in friendly circles. This is a toughy….I’ll be thinking about this for the rest of the day now! #abitofeverything

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 25, 2015 at 1:49 pm

      Oh Mr K, are you suggesting I used a deliberately provocative title???……
      yup, your totally right, guilty as charged.
      Buddy is a rubbish one, it makes me think of the film Elf (which I do love) x

  18. This Mum's Life

    November 25, 2015 at 8:37 pm

    Yes, also familiar with lover and me babber, living in Brizzle! The same ones were used in Wiltshire too, where I grew up! My nan always called us Duck-she was cockney through and through. Sorry I don’t have anything new to add to the party!
    #abitofeverything

    1. The Anxious Dragon

      November 25, 2015 at 8:41 pm

      Oh yes, your in the heart of the west country x

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