Finding Your Voice

Hello everyone, today I’m going to be talking about finding your voice.

This is another one of those posts that I’m going to start by telling you how much I love Twitter. It’s true, I’m an addict and the reason is the amazing people I’ve met on there. One person I’ve been fortunate enough to befriend on Twitter is Becky O’Haire aka @CuddleFairy.

Becky is one of those people who you can always turn to when you’re feeling a bit low. She’ s a real glass half full type of person. Becky loves to spead happiness and positivity and to aid this runs a weekly Twitter chat called #PositivityCorner. This is somewhere people share positive thoughts, stories and quotes. It’s a great place to hang out on a Monday evening.

Not content with spreading positivity to our little corner of the twitterverse, Becky also runs online courses that help people to become more positive. I was really happy when Becky picked me to review her latest online course Finding Your Voice.
A seagull in the foreground, beak open as if shouting. Sea in the background. The words finding your voice written to the right of the seagull in black

Finding Your Voice

I have to admit I was a bit intrigued when I saw the title of this course. Finding your voice sounds rather like something a motivational speaker might need. However it actually relates to our inner voice.

Many people in life can find they lose themselves over time. Life takes over and people forget who they really are.  When I developed anxiety and subsequently stopped working full-time I felt I lost connection with the real me. The aim of the finding your voice course is to help people reconnect with their inner selves.

The course is divided into 4 weekly lessons, although there is no set timescale for completing it. So people can take more or less time to complete lessons, depending on their own particular needs and expectations of the course.

Week 1 – Recognising and connecting with the essential you.

Week one sets the foundation for the rest of the course. Meditation is used as one of the tools for the course. Over the years I’ve done several sessions or courses that require meditation and to be honest I’m crap at it.

I’m told to picture a candle, see the candle in my mind and focus on the flame. I’m looking at the flame…. and oh what’s that….. suddenly my inner eye has forgotten the flame and is writing out the weekends shopping list.

Therefore I wasn’t expecting this part of the course to go well, but Becky has anticipated the general difficulty people have with meditation ans has instead created a fantastic video that had calming scenes, beautiful music and on-screen affirmations that help you relax without losing focus. The meditation video is something people are encouraged to watch every day.

This is a small clip of the meditation video. The full video is 4 minutes long.

I won’t go into too much detail about the content of the first week, but one thing really stood out as a lightbulb moment. A simple sentence ‘We are not our thoughts’. As someone who spends way too much time in her head with her thoughts, the idea that I am more than the contents of my thoughts was strange and quite liberating.

Week 2 – Removing baggage

The second week was focussed on fears and guilt and other things that restrict our lives. The emphasis being that these are often things people create for themselves via their thoughts. So by understanding and being more in control of  reactions to their thoughts, people can begin to be less controlled by fears and guilt.

There is also a big section on forgiveness. Now it’s no secret among my family and close friends that I can hold a grudge for forever. I am slow to anger, but if people do piss me off, I dont forget. And of course there are people in my life who have caused real harm to me.

Therefore the subject of forgiveness is one I find quite difficult. There were tasks in week 2 that involves forgiving yourself and forgiving others. I must confess I didn’t do too well with these. But something that’s emphasised in the course is you’re not expected to get it all in just 4 weeks. Rather, these are tools that you can keep coming back to.

Week 3 – Quieting the mind

Week 3 was an easier one for me. It focused on finding peace at times when things are busy or you’re finding things particularly stressful. There were lots of helpful tips this week on finding calm and connecting back with yourself.

Week 4 – Happiness in the Now

Week 4 sort of pulled everything I learnt in the previous 3 weeks together. The emphasis was on living in the present, and being present in everything you do. So for example when a person is out with family they give what they’re doing their full attention rather than mentally writing that shopping list, fretting about the meeting at work next week, or reliving an argument they had 3 years ago (with the witty comebacks that never get used in real arguments).

For me this is one of the things that I will continue to work on. As an anxious person I tend to live a lot of my time fretting and planning for things that may happen in the future. Living in the now is hard, but I can and will keep referring back to the finding your voice course materials to help keep me on track.

The finding your voice course costs €39 (which works out at just over £33). That works out at less than cost of an average night out. The benefits of taking the course for me  however will last a lot longer than a night out.

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I was gifted the course to try for free, but all opinions given are my own.


  1. Tracey Carr

    May 29, 2019 at 9:16 pm

    This sounds like a great course for me to be honest as I’m a big anxiety sufferer too. I think working on removing baggage from our lives is really important and I’ve only realised in the last couple of years just how necessary that is, even if the baggage is people (including family members). I’m also with you on the ‘living in the present’ stuff too. When anxiety takes grip that is very hard to do. I am constantly worrying about things that haven’t happened yet. Being able to stay in the present would be lovely. It sounds like a great course and that it is doing you good.

  2. Millie Baxter

    May 22, 2019 at 10:02 pm

    It ounds an awesome course and one we could l do with. You made me smile with the bit about meditating visualising a candle; it is impossible that way I think too!
    How many hours was the course?
    Living the moment, quieting the mind and not making lists for things that may never happpen is great advice too. Thank you for sharing #alittlebitofeverything

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      May 23, 2019 at 4:17 am

      It really took no more than 15 minutes a day for the 4 weeks x

  3. Michelle K

    May 19, 2019 at 3:23 pm

    Everything you describe here is what my Calm app does. I am so glad Becky is offering this course to people though. Mindfulness is very important and as you know I love meditation. I was like you when I first started it and thought there was no way I’d be able to push my thoughts away so I can meditate but using calming sounds and a calming scene is so helpful. I’m glad Becky uses that to help people with their meditations. #abitofeverything

  4. Rose Tinted Ramblings

    May 13, 2019 at 8:57 am

    I love that line “we are not our thoughts”. That destructive inner voice we all have. Its really good to learn to admonist and quash it from time to time x

  5. twicemicrowavedtea

    May 12, 2019 at 9:04 pm

    This sounds like a really helpful course and at a really reasonable price too. Like you, I struggle with meditation (or just switching off in general to be honest!) #abitofeverything

  6. Mummykind

    May 9, 2019 at 5:37 pm

    These tips look really good – definitely a course that is suited for everyone, we all need to find ourselves a bit! #abitofeverything

  7. Alice

    May 9, 2019 at 2:44 pm

    This sounds like a pretty good course for people who are still trying to figure out things. In reality I think life is full of discoveries. Discovering yourself little by little, discovering the world around you little by little, and discovering your own happiness little by little. I’ve heard over and over again by other life/business coaches that you are unique and have a unique voice and gift to give the world.

  8. Sam

    May 9, 2019 at 11:00 am

    I think letting go helps a lot because you let the barriers to speak up X #abitofeverything

  9. Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy

    May 9, 2019 at 1:26 am

    I don’t spend nearly as much time on twitter as I should be Becky is great and this course sounds really good. I know several people that are struggling a bit right now and could benefit from it #anythinggoes

    1. Jeremy@ThirstyDaddy

      May 9, 2019 at 1:37 am

      sorry Tracey, I used the wrong hashtag on your linky. How embarrassing

      1. hooks_and_dragons

        May 9, 2019 at 11:53 am

        No worries mate 😊

    2. hooks_and_dragons

      May 9, 2019 at 11:52 am

      I really do recommend it, or if funds are tight (as I know they are for many people) there is a 7 day course

    3. hooks_and_dragons

      May 9, 2019 at 11:52 am

      That Becky runs for free (pressed send too soon)

  10. Coombe Mill

    May 8, 2019 at 9:55 pm

    I don’t hang out on twitter nearly as much as I used to, I miss it though, may be I’ll go back and see who I find. The 4 stages of the course sound a good way to find your voice. #ABitofEverything

  11. endardoo

    May 8, 2019 at 1:30 pm

    Sounds interesting – and affordable!! It’s one thing finding your voice – and that’s easier said than done – but having the confidence to use it, and damn the torpedos, now that’s really something. Great post. Enda, at #ABitOfEverything

  12. Karen Dennis

    May 8, 2019 at 1:09 pm

    Sounds like a great course, one that I personally don’t need, my husband is disappointed that after suffering s stroke and brain tumor, I still have a voice and use it#abitofeverytbing@_karendennid

  13. RaisieBay

    May 8, 2019 at 12:34 pm

    Less than the cost of a take out for the family…well worth it for some peace of mind! I’ve done a course very similar to this (actually set up by a South African, who has become a good online friend since.) They are really eye opening and sometimes it’s so difficult to understand that it’s what is inside of you that can make all the difference to your life. I know Becky from her blog and Twitter too and she’s a lovely positive person and it’s so great that she’s inspiring others to be the same. x

  14. Laurie

    May 8, 2019 at 12:13 pm

    Thank you for sharing your honest review of the course. I think that the more I blog, the closer I come to finding my real voice. The exercises you describe from the course could benefit everyone – not just writers.

    And…I love Twitter too. Most of the people I follow are runners, and they are almost 100% positive and encouraging. I love to go on Twitter. I always come away smiling.

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