How To Lose Weight Without Scales 

“How can you lose weight without scales?” This is a question a good friend of mine asked the other day when I told her that I wasnt going to weigh myself during my current healthy eating plan. I jokingly said I will know when my clothes get loser, but actually I get what she means, it is a weird way to approach losing weight, but its how I am doing it,  and this is why.

My relationship with food.

As friends on social media and real life will surely have noticed I am carrying a few extra pounds. To be more precise I am well into the morbidly obese range for a woman of my height. So it would seam logical that I would at least think about losing some weight at this time of year.

I have to admit I have always had a problematic relationship with food. This can be attributed to a variety of causes, very early childhood trauma, low self esteme and a family/genetic disposition for overeating.

My relationship with food took a worse turn in my early 20’s. After the birth of my first son I was carrying more weight than I should have been, but was by no means the size I am today.

However rather than being married to a wonderful man who loves and cherishes me just the way I am, my ex husband was a nasty man who firmly believed a womans worth was firmly linked to their weight.

During nearly all 9 months of my pregnancy I suffered from morning sickness. Not the naseaus type of sickness, I simply vomitted if I ate more than a few mouthfuls of food at a time. As if there were not enough room for baby and food together.

The result of this was that by the time M was born I was quite use to being sick and it didn’t bother me at all.

What has this to do with food and dieting?

Following giving birth I joined a slimming club, but was not losing weight as fast as the ex wanted. I needed to find a better way to lose weight.

One day the thought flittered through my head, if only I still had morning sickness it would help. And so I made myself sick (no, I wont go into details). It was very easy to do and it did help the weight to shift. This began a spiral of bulimia that lasted about 5 years.

I was a master of deception.  I could purge silently and always kept mints with me. There were always a list of valid reasons to leave the room as soon as I had eaten.  At the same time I began obsessing over weighing myself too. 9,10 times a day or more.

After a while I stopped going to the weight loss classes and began  a cycle of binge eating and purging. My weight yoyoed during this time. The only constant was the purging and the obsessive weighing.

The cycle of bulimia only stopped when I found out I was 5 months pregnant with my second child. Yes, you read that right, 5 months gone before I knew, but that is a different story.  From the time I found out I stopped purging. My body wasnt just mine any more. I had something far more important than me to care for.

The 4 months I was pregnant and the subsequent months afterwards were enough to break the urge to be sick every time I ate. It wasn’t an easy thing to stop, but I managed it.

Where did that leave me now?

As I have said before I’m very overweight. Although I know what foods I should eat, and further more actually like healthy foods, I enjoy crap food as well.

All the while I’m not in diet mode I can say that the days of bulimia are well behind me, but once I start to diet those feelings return. The need to constantly weigh myself. The self lothing if I eat the wrong foods. The niggling thoughts that it would be so easy to get rid of the food.

The way I dealt with this for the last 10 years has been to not diet. I did lose a lot of weight a while ago. However that was because of stress.  When I met Mr A and became happy again the weight crept back on.

How DO you lose weight without scales?

You may be asking what is the point of this rambling post?  Well I’ve got to the stage now where my weight is affecting me physically. I don’t want to diet because of the pressures it puts on me, but I need to do something for my health.

My solution is to follow a healthy eating plan, but to throw away the scales. I did not weight myself when I started, so I have no idea what I weigh or how much I have lost.

Obviously I need to stick to the plan. But if I have a day where I don’t for whatever reason I do not have to beat myself up about it. My weeks won’t be judged as good or bad depending on the numbers on the scales. I wont feel guilty for cheating because I ate the wrong food.

How long term this stratagy will work I din’t know but I am hopeful. I don’t actually want to lose a massive amount of weight.

Slowly I’ve come to an acceptance of the size I am, helped greatly by the love of Mr A. Also replacing my wardrobe every time I lose a lot of weight is expensive. However I do want to feel more physically comftable. So that is my goal for the year, to simply to feel better. I shall allow my clothes to be a measure of whether this approach is working or not.

How to lose weight without scales

Do you think its possible to lose weight without scales? Have you ever tried to do anything similar, and if so how did it go?

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*Update*
I wrote this post a few weeks ago, but was reluctant to press publish straight away incase it all went tits up in the first week and I ended up looking like a twat. However after two weeks it is going okay. Obviously I dont know if my lose weight without scales plan has resulted in a weight loss, but I sticking to my own plan during the week and feel like I have more energy and feel less bloated. So fingers crossed its doing its job.

33 Comments

  1. Pickinguptoys

    July 10, 2017 at 10:11 pm

    I’ve been all sorts of weights & sizes over the years and have an unhealthy relationship with food too, I’m an emotional eater. I’ve never made myself sick – I think mainly because I suffer with Hyperemesis when pregnant & now being sick fills me with fear, but for a while I did abuse laxatives and whilst it worked it was never enough. I also get obsessed with the scales & was weighing multiple times a day. Im trying to be far more sensible now, im aware that I have a daughter who may pick up on the things I say & do and I’d hate for her to end up with body image problems because of me.Good luck gorgeous lady xx

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 10, 2017 at 10:26 pm

      It must be really quite scary raising a girl in this day and age with all the pressures put on them to look ‘right’.

  2. Alan Herbert

    July 11, 2017 at 4:23 am

    Actually a very sensible thing to do. Lowering calorie intake and increasing exercise is the best way to maintain weight loss.

    Good luck.
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  3. Helen

    July 11, 2017 at 6:42 am

    Well done on the first weeks going well – long may it continue. I don’t like to weigh myself and more go by how I’m feeling and what my clothes feel like. Scales can easily lead to an unhealthy obsession! #TwinklyTuesday

  4. Liz Deacle

    July 11, 2017 at 7:28 am

    Good on you for writing such an honest post. I too don’t have scales and simply go by how tight my trousers are. Try to relax about it and you will probably find the weight comes off easier. You also may be low on progesterone (i was) and so got some cream from the docs, it helped shift some unwanted rolls! Try meditation. It helps you to look at your thought patterns and you could start to identify a pattern. You look beautiful to me and your hubby obviously agrees! Good luck! #TwinklyTuesday

  5. Relentlesslypurple

    July 11, 2017 at 7:54 am

    I think this is a much healthier approach to losing weight. Ken refused to let me own scales for years as the second I had some I’d be on them all the time! I finally got a set a year or so ago & whilst I do check occasionally it’s quite rare. They are purposefully tucked away in my room where it’s obvious if I pull them out. I hope doing things this way helps you lose healthily & happily. I’m so glad Mr A is so supportive of you too, it makes a world of difference! xxx
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  6. Lisa

    July 11, 2017 at 9:55 am

    This is most definitely achievable Tracey, in fact I would say it’s the best way of doing it. I have scales, but rarely weigh myself. I much prefer to guess by how my clothes feel and how I look. Definitely recommend borrowing a doggy to walk too – I would lend you my boy, but we’re a bit far away. You can do this Tracey 🙂 xxx

  7. Lisa

    July 11, 2017 at 12:20 pm

    Hey lovely lady, just popping back via #TwinklyTuesday. Still loving this post xx

  8. Mama Grace

    July 11, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    Bless you. I haven’t weighed my self for nearly 2 decades. I got weighed when I was pregnant. I know when I’m fit and that’s normally to with exercise. My mind body connection tells me when I have strength in my arms, leg and core and probably most importantly for me my spine. I know when I’m happy with my flexibility and have released tension and when I have good cardio. I don’t need a scales for that. Also when I’m training I love food and mainly fancy delicious food and for me that’s fresh and wholesome. Anyway, it’s all about the mind. That’s the biggest hurdle and meditation gets me there. I want to get back to more yoga and work on my flexibility but having kids I’m fitting in what I can. I hope you carry on with the eating plan, love, nurture and take care of yourself with through the food you put in your body, the movement you do and how you look after your mind. #TwinklyTuesday

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 11, 2017 at 1:11 pm

      Thank you. I believe body and mind need to be treated as equally important when looking at your health xx

  9. Michelle Kellogg

    July 11, 2017 at 1:18 pm

    I have a scale but I only check it once a month. I eat pretty healthy now but in my twenties I didn’t. I used to go on crash diets whenever I felt I needed to lose a few pounds. I’m a bottom heavy person. I’m just built that way but having been picked on since my hips developed – by my own family no less – lead to some body image issues that I never talked about. If my hips got a little too wide or my butt and thighs got a little too thick, someone in my life was always pointing it out to me and it made me super aware after I had my first son too. My ex-husband wasn’t like yours, thankfully. He loved my body but by the time I met him I had already had my own internal issues with my body. I never felt comfortable until my thirties when I started working through a lot of the childhood trauma I went through. That and I finally started eating right and becoming more active. My relationship with food can be a little unhealthy sometimes but I have binged quite a few times. My sister had both bulimia and anorexia in her teens and twenties. Her daughter’s father was relentless towards her after her daughter was born. I saw that pain she went through so I completely understand what you must have gone through with your ex. She’s also finally healthy but it took her daughter, when she was six, to start obsessing over her weight to make my sister change her attitude towards weight and how she looked at her body. Now my niece is 17 and she is a lot more confidant in herself than I or her mother ever was. We women should talk about this more though. The pressures that society and our own internal struggles puts us under makes us look at our bodies as the enemy. We need to help each other learn to love our bodies and forget what society says. A woman’s body is a beautiful thing, yet its that same beauty that somehow imprisons us because of this pressure. It’s sort of a paradox. Thanks for sharing this with us Tracey.

  10. mummy here and there

    July 11, 2017 at 1:22 pm

    I have an unhealthy relationship with food and can understand this post complete. I think once you stop obsessing over numbers then your half way there. I do believe you lose weight if you change your mindset X #dreamteam

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 11, 2017 at 1:23 pm

      I agree. Weight loss is (for me at least) far more of a mental challenge than it is a physical one.

  11. Muffin top mummy

    July 11, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    I think I might have to take a leaf out of your book as I’m trying to lose the baby weight I gained (who knew eating tonnes of doughnuts was bad!?) to be healthy again. However, I keep weighing myself and getting frustrated when although it looks like my body’s changed, the scales tell me it hasn’t. I think I’ll just do away with the numbers and work on how I look and feel! #dreamteam

  12. Heather Keet

    July 11, 2017 at 7:06 pm

    The only time I effectively lost weight was without a scale! Keep up the great work and feeling good! #DreamTeam
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  13. The Squirmy Popple

    July 11, 2017 at 8:31 pm

    This sounds like a really sensible approach. Dieting should focus on adopting healthy eating habits that you can stick to – not obsessing over numbers on a scale. I hope it goes well for you – good luck! #DreamTeam
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  14. Lisa Pomerantz

    July 12, 2017 at 11:55 am

    Bravo for your brutal honesty and candor here. F*ck that scale. That number cannot and will not determine your self-worth or overall sense of well-being for the day, month, year, lifetime. We through our scale away 20 years ago and now, the only time I am weighed is if a physician needs to know. I too have a long history of eating disorders – anorexia, bulimia, exercise bulimia, and laxative abuse. Free yourself of that stupid gizmo, free your mind and live well, because you want to, and you will drop the weight you need to in order to feel better and live healthier. #YesYouCan and I am more than happy to talk on the side to help. We did all our work before the girls, so they never have to experience what we went through in terms of looks, self-esteem, and scales. Hang tough, you can win this. #DreamTeam Why does being women in this word have to mean we risk our lives to please others? Oy vey.
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  15. Sim @simslife.co.uk

    July 12, 2017 at 7:09 pm

    I hope you are cracking on well chick… a weight loss journey is not just about losing weight, it’s all about a new lifestyle too. Find a diet that suits you and fits in easily around you as you wont start to resent it after time. I have to admit to being on a diet where weight loss is guaranteed if followed so scales aren’t truly necessary, however I am a scales junkie! I love standing on the scales and watching the figure fall down… look forward to following your journey! Sim xx #DreamTeamLinky #FeelGoodLinky
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  16. Stefani

    July 13, 2017 at 1:28 pm

    I think you can do it without them, go you!!! 💪 I think it’s all about how you feel in yourself and why you want to do it. Hope it is all still going good xx

    1. Stefani

      July 13, 2017 at 1:30 pm

      #coolmumclub (I keep forgetting that bot today!) new to the link ups x
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    2. hooks_and_dragons

      July 13, 2017 at 1:31 pm

      Hi, thank you. Yes at the moment it is all good. I am more relaxed about the diet at weekends because I dont want food to dictate what I can or cant do at weekends, but Im feeling better and thats what I wanted xx

  17. Lucy grace

    July 13, 2017 at 1:44 pm

    I love this idea! I feel so much pressure when I know weigh in day is approaching and that stresses me and makes me want to eat more! It’s simple, eat well and move more. It’s only life that makes it so complicated! I hope it continues to be a success for you after all you have been through. Keep healthy and happy! Xxx #coolmumclub

  18. jeremy-thirstydaddy

    July 13, 2017 at 3:26 pm

    I never pay attention to the number on the scale. Every once in a while I’ll notice that my “need to lose a few” is turning into “need to lose a lot” and I start paying attention to what I’m eating. I’ve never cared about my weight, I care about not looking like a fat ass. Right now I’m starting to look like a fat ass again. Good luck to both of us #dreamteam

  19. MMT

    July 13, 2017 at 7:44 pm

    I like this idea! I go through fits and starts with weighing myself, and the times I do do it I tend to get fixated about reaching a whole round number which is honestly not achievable or necessary. In all honesty the times in my life I have hit that weight have been the unhappiest in my life or the most stressful! There’s alot to be said for carrying some ‘happy fat’ but good for you for recognising when it’s perhaps gone a tad too far and needs dealing with in some way. Best of luck lovely! x Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 13, 2017 at 7:47 pm

      Yes, im the same. My ‘thinner’ years were shit ones. I am not designed to be a thin person. But healthier will be good x

  20. hayley balozi

    July 13, 2017 at 8:14 pm

    I’ve always been an emotional eater, to the point where I can just binge, binge and binge. And the more I started stressing about my weight the fatter I got! I’m now 5 stone lighter and I tell you what, not worrying about my weight, not constantly weighing myself and focusing on health and not size was what changed my life. The minute I stopped focusing on losing weight was when I lost it! Just eat healthy, move more and have the occasional treat. Good luck! x #coolmumclub

  21. David

    July 15, 2017 at 12:16 pm

    Great post. Very honest. I hope all goes well and you achieve your aim. Good luck.
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    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 15, 2017 at 12:19 pm

      Thank you xx

  22. Annette, 3 Little Buttons

    July 16, 2017 at 3:13 pm

    I had no idea Tracey, what a difficult time you must have been though. And courageous to share your story now. You have obviously come on in leaps and bounds,. Steven from FITDADZ had a great post about the right reasons for losing weight and the motivators. Yours sounds like a good one, and well done on the perseverance. I think it’s very possible to lose weight without the scales. The fit of clothes is always a good indicator, and feeling better in yourself too. I’m trying to do the same, slowly, and leaning towards getting my fitness back in check. Good luck on your journey. #DreamTeam xx
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    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 16, 2017 at 3:28 pm

      Thank you I will check out Stevens post. I think the big thing is having the right mindset for losing weight xx

  23. Susie at This is me now

    July 17, 2017 at 1:59 pm

    It’s totally possible and the healthiest way in my opinion. Good luck! #coolmumclub

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      July 17, 2017 at 2:00 pm

      Thank you, its going well so far, 3 weeks in xx

  24. Crummy Mummy

    July 24, 2017 at 9:41 am

    This is totally the right approach in my opinion! I use my clothes as a measure & if they’re feeling a bit snug I do something about it for a few weeks. Equally if they’re feeling a bit loose I know to stop cutting down. Who needs scales? #twinklytuesday
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