How To Lose Weight Without Scales
“How can you lose weight without scales?” This is a question a good friend of mine asked the other day when I told her that I wasnt going to weigh myself during my current healthy eating plan. I jokingly said I will know when my clothes get loser, but actually I get what she means, it is a weird way to approach losing weight, but its how I am doing it, and this is why.
My relationship with food.
As friends on social media and real life will surely have noticed I am carrying a few extra pounds. To be more precise I am well into the morbidly obese range for a woman of my height. So it would seam logical that I would at least think about losing some weight at this time of year.
I have to admit I have always had a problematic relationship with food. This can be attributed to a variety of causes, very early childhood trauma, low self esteme and a family/genetic disposition for overeating.
My relationship with food took a worse turn in my early 20’s. After the birth of my first son I was carrying more weight than I should have been, but was by no means the size I am today.
However rather than being married to a wonderful man who loves and cherishes me just the way I am, my ex husband was a nasty man who firmly believed a womans worth was firmly linked to their weight.
During nearly all 9 months of my pregnancy I suffered from morning sickness. Not the naseaus type of sickness, I simply vomitted if I ate more than a few mouthfuls of food at a time. As if there were not enough room for baby and food together.
The result of this was that by the time M was born I was quite use to being sick and it didn’t bother me at all.
What has this to do with food and dieting?
Following giving birth I joined a slimming club, but was not losing weight as fast as the ex wanted. I needed to find a better way to lose weight.
One day the thought flittered through my head, if only I still had morning sickness it would help. And so I made myself sick (no, I wont go into details). It was very easy to do and it did help the weight to shift. This began a spiral of bulimia that lasted about 5 years.
I was a master of deception. I could purge silently and always kept mints with me. There were always a list of valid reasons to leave the room as soon as I had eaten. At the same time I began obsessing over weighing myself too. 9,10 times a day or more.
After a while I stopped going to the weight loss classes and began a cycle of binge eating and purging. My weight yoyoed during this time. The only constant was the purging and the obsessive weighing.
The cycle of bulimia only stopped when I found out I was 5 months pregnant with my second child. Yes, you read that right, 5 months gone before I knew, but that is a different story. From the time I found out I stopped purging. My body wasnt just mine any more. I had something far more important than me to care for.
The 4 months I was pregnant and the subsequent months afterwards were enough to break the urge to be sick every time I ate. It wasn’t an easy thing to stop, but I managed it.
Where did that leave me now?
As I have said before I’m very overweight. Although I know what foods I should eat, and further more actually like healthy foods, I enjoy crap food as well.
All the while I’m not in diet mode I can say that the days of bulimia are well behind me, but once I start to diet those feelings return. The need to constantly weigh myself. The self lothing if I eat the wrong foods. The niggling thoughts that it would be so easy to get rid of the food.
The way I dealt with this for the last 10 years has been to not diet. I did lose a lot of weight a while ago. However that was because of stress. When I met Mr A and became happy again the weight crept back on.
How DO you lose weight without scales?
You may be asking what is the point of this rambling post? Well I’ve got to the stage now where my weight is affecting me physically. I don’t want to diet because of the pressures it puts on me, but I need to do something for my health.
My solution is to follow a healthy eating plan, but to throw away the scales. I did not weight myself when I started, so I have no idea what I weigh or how much I have lost.
Obviously I need to stick to the plan. But if I have a day where I don’t for whatever reason I do not have to beat myself up about it. My weeks won’t be judged as good or bad depending on the numbers on the scales. I wont feel guilty for cheating because I ate the wrong food.
How long term this stratagy will work I din’t know but I am hopeful. I don’t actually want to lose a massive amount of weight.
Slowly I’ve come to an acceptance of the size I am, helped greatly by the love of Mr A. Also replacing my wardrobe every time I lose a lot of weight is expensive. However I do want to feel more physically comftable. So that is my goal for the year, to simply to feel better. I shall allow my clothes to be a measure of whether this approach is working or not.
Do you think its possible to lose weight without scales? Have you ever tried to do anything similar, and if so how did it go?
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I wrote this post a few weeks ago, but was reluctant to press publish straight away incase it all went tits up in the first week and I ended up looking like a twat. However after two weeks it is going okay. Obviously I dont know if my lose weight without scales plan has resulted in a weight loss, but I sticking to my own plan during the week and feel like I have more energy and feel less bloated. So fingers crossed its doing its job.