I have a drink problem…….
This post was first posted in spring 2012.
Good afternoon to you all. It appears that spring is finally round the corner and that means summer cannot be far behind.
For me summer means picnics, trips to the seaside, and lazy evenings spent in the local pub garden. Now im sure you are all thinking now that these type of activities give plenty of scope for drinking confessions, but with me that is not the case.
Would you like to know MY guilty drinking secret??
Are you sure you can handle it without recoiling with horror?? Promise you wont get the pitchforks out and banish me from blogging Twitter and the Interweb??
Okay, here goes………..
I dont like alcohol!!!!!!!
Tis true, when I spend the evening in a pub I drink cola (no ice, slice of lemon if your offering) and that is fine with me.
What is NOT fine, what annoys me more than I care to mention and actually makes me avoid many situations that involve a drinking establishment is peoples reaction when I tell them I would like a soft drink.
Usually the first reaction I get from someone who is not use to my drinking preferences is……do you have a drinking problem?
This can come come in the form of feigned sympathy “oh I understand, my uncle/neighbour/best friends mum is teetotal” or a completely blunt “why, are you a recovering alky”
No, I have never had a drinking problem, I do not have alcoholic parents, or any significant other that would put me off drinking, I simply DO NOT LIKE ALCOHOL.
Why drinking alcohol is viewed as such a natural part of our adult lives that to not do so is automatically seen as an indication of an addiction I do not know. I don’t like broad beans either, but no one has ever accused me of being addicted to them!
People that know me better than to think that I have a current/former alcohol addiction look for a different cause of my ‘problem’.
They think it’s all a matter of taste.
They assume that I do not like the taste of alcohol, and to some degree they are right. Beer, larger, wine….yuck!.
I am not keen on spirits (I remember the first time I swigged a mouth full of whiskey out of a bottle from my dads shed, I was convinced I had drunk some sort of poison he had put in an empty whiskey bottle, no way would anyone voluntarily drink something so vile).
The hardcore drinkers believe I need to ‘man up’ in my attitude to alcohol. If I perservere long enough I will get use to the taste of ‘proper’ drinks like wine or spirits.
Other kinder ‘well meaning’ people look for drinks that I will like the taste of, usually alcopops or spirits diluted with pop, and it is true I do not mind the taste of these at all. In my drinking years I would happily drink diluted spirits as they did not give me bad hangovers.
Neither the man up or the alcopop alternative method is going to work now though because I DO NOT LIKE ALCOHOL.
My refusal to adopt the accepted drinking practices of the average UK adult is usually accepted by people once they realise it is not an addiction problem or a dislike of the taste. However there is a small group of people who continue to have a problem with this.
The ones who do not buy soft drinks.
These people are the ones that keep me out of pubs, away from parties and any other occasion that usually involves drinking, as they consider it either a challenge to make me drink or an insult if I refuse.
I get the ‘im not buying you a drink unless its a proper drink’ speach. Well…..excuse me but what exactly do you think coke is? As far as im concerned its wet so therefore it is a drink. If people persist with this line, I simply buy my own all evening, inevitably saving myself a bundle in the process.
Some think they can simply ‘slip’ a vodka or similar in my coke and I wont notice. Purlease……. do I look stupid?? Well maybe I do, but I can still recognise the taste of vodka and I will not be tricked into drinking it.
Neither will I be ‘shamed’ into drinking it as you have spent your hard earned money on it. If you chose to waste money on a drink I did not ask for thats your problem, I DO NOT LIKE ALCOHOL.
I think you maybe getting the picture now, I don’t like alcohol. I don’t like the taste of it, I think it is ridiculously expensive, I do not like hangovers and I do not like feeling drunk.
With the escalation of my anxiety and social phobia as I get older the need to be in complete control of myself is very important.
These are all valid reasons not to enjoy drinking, but you know what?? I shouldn’t need to justify myself to other people and I shouldn’t have to experience harassment and bullying because I chose not to drink.
I will leave it there for today. If you are still here I thank you for taking the time to read my rather ranty outpourings.
I wonder if any of you have experienced this type of behaviour from others because of drinking or any other lifestyle choice you have that doesn’t fit society’s norms.
I would love to hear your views on this post, so please add a comment or two Xx