Time To Talk

Hello readers.  As you know if you’ve been following my blog for the last two weeks (if you haven’t where on earth have you been?) I’m not having the greatest time at the moment. A combination of the time of year, ridiculously cold weather (did you know I hate snow??) and the loss of my job recently have resulted in my anxiety being really quite bad.

I’m not taking it lying down though . Even though I have days I feel very sorry for myself, I am a stubborn old woman and I’m determined not to let it get the better of me. There are all manner of things I’m doing to help raise my mood and reduce my anxiety.

Crochet –

Throwing myself into my latest crochet projects is one way. I’m currently making a crochet Hogwarts Express. Oh yes, you read that right. Whats more when its finished it will be over 4 foot in length. That is a lot of stitches to count, and all that counting helps me ignore the anxiety.

Top half of picture a photo of the Hogwarts Express. Bottom of picture a photo of my unfinished Hogwarts Express main train

Talking –

Another big thing I’m doing to help myself is talking to other people about how I’m feeling.

Two sheep heads facing each other as if talking
This isn’t something I find easy to do (I’m more comfortable in the role of someone that gives help rather than seeks it) but I’m working on it. My Twitter support group are ace. This is a group of like-minded individuals who have become friends because of our wider interests. However many of the group have MH issues and they understand what its like when anxiety takes a hold and are always willing to listen and offer  a bit of advice.

Sometimes though talking to friends, even amazing ones like mine who really understand isn’t enough to help. When that happens the logical solution would be to seek help via the NHS. However its no secret the mental health service is stretched far too thin at the moment. Referrals for therapy, if you get one can take months. When I last went to the doctors about my anxiety and depression I was offered phone councelling. For someone with buggered up ears that was as useful as a chocolate teapot!!

As an alternative to the NHS people can seek out private therapy. This can be be a lifeline, but it does have drawbacks. The obvious one being the cost, but also there is the issue of availability of therapists. In places like the Forest of Dean therapists are not in great supply. This means in addition to the cost of the sessions themselves, anyone seeking private therapy would also have to figure the cost and stress involved in travelling to the therapist.

Online Therapy –

There is an alternative to face-to-face therapy, that is online therapy.  Talkspace  is one such service that helps to put people in contact with qualified therapists for a text based  therapy service. This Talkspace review tells one ladies experience of the Talkspace app.

For someone such as myself who finds going outside, meeting strangers and talking on the phone really difficult the idea of a text based service that you can access as and when you need too offload and chat (as opposed to waiting all week for an hour face to face therapy session) sounds ideal. The service costs $49 a week (approximately £35). Compared to the average cost of an hour therapy in the UK at £50 this works out much cheaper.

So once I have finished my mamouth crochet project I’m going to look at downloading the Talkspace app and arranging some online therapy.

Have you used online therapy in the past? If not would you consider using it?

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Thank you, Mrs A Xx


  1. Lisa Pomerantz

    February 25, 2019 at 7:36 pm

    Therapy online via text! I am eager to hear how this works. I know you are having a tough go of it, and I am admittedly too. Sending you a great big hug. And one more too! #mixitup xoxo

  2. Kerry

    February 18, 2019 at 10:19 pm

    Hi Mrs A, sorry to hear you’ve been having a bad time. I haven’t spoken about my anxiety for a long time as I thought I was over it…how wrong I was! I’ve just written a post all about it and added it to your lovely linky. That Talkspace thing sounds great, I will definitely check that out. Hope you feel better soon.

  3. Stephanie

    February 18, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    A fantastic concept for people who have an even larger increase in anxiety when it comes to actually getting out to see someone for help or talking on the phone.

  4. Rose Tinted Ramblings

    January 31, 2019 at 11:09 am

    Tracey, congratulations on becoming more open yourself. I know myself, as a giver, that it takes a while. I didn’t know about Talksoace. Going to look into it. #mixitup

  5. endardoo

    January 28, 2019 at 4:29 pm

    Good to read above you are in a better space … and I presume that train has left the station? #MixItUp

  6. Laurie

    January 28, 2019 at 1:33 pm

    I did not know about Talkspace. Thank you for the very valuable tips. Hoping you are at a better point in your life now.

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      January 28, 2019 at 2:58 pm

      Thank you , yes a year on and I’m much better

  7. Sigrid Chu

    September 30, 2018 at 1:39 am

    Hello Tracey,

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts and for highlighting the importance of seeking help from others when needed.


  8. Lisa Pomerantz

    March 10, 2018 at 11:04 am

    Back to you, from #dreamteam xo

  9. Lisa Pomerantz

    March 9, 2018 at 12:01 am

    Tracey, my heart goes out to you and I am sending a great big hug! I am a big believer in therapy, and it sounds as though this may be just right for you. I have never done it online or via text, but I have over the phone? I am looking forward to learning more, and hoping you are feeling better soon. #mg xo

  10. Laura Dove

    March 4, 2018 at 7:05 pm

    I’ve done online therapy on and off between seeing my regular therapists over the years. There’s some great sites out there you can access with the NHS too, and it’s great to touch base and know help is there as and when you need it. #bigpinklink

  11. Mackenzie Glanville

    March 4, 2018 at 2:55 am

    You have been through some rough times, loosing a job can have such a huge impact on our mental health too. I hadn’t heard of that option for therapy, but it sounds great. It can be so hard to get out to see a therapist when anxiety is bad too, I struggled to want to leave the house for quite a while. I know people say this but if you ever want to chat via email, or messenger let me know as I am happy to offer what support I can. I know I am on a different time zone, but I am here for you as I truly care about you. I know living with Anxiety is a F’n hard thing, and worrying about money for therapy is so hard. Yes I am nota therapist but I am here if you want. #mg

  12. Helena

    March 3, 2018 at 1:30 pm

    Creating things and talking are wonderful ways in which to help deal with mental health issues. You are very talented at crochet – myself less so. I have done a Mental Health First Aid course in the past and have done a course in line with Mind so have heard of Talking Space. I have never used it personally but hope it works for those that need it. #bigpinklink

  13. Annette, 3 Little Buttons

    March 1, 2018 at 10:16 am

    Hey Tracey…. sorry to hear you lost your job and you’re having such a tough time with anxiety at the moment. I think when routine changes it can certainly trigger those unsettling feelings. It looks like you have found some great ways of taking your mind off things. Oh my goodness … your crotchet Hogwarts Express is so cool. Can’t wait to see what it looks like when you have finished it! Thanks for joining us for the #DreamTeam *sending hugs x

  14. Catie

    February 27, 2018 at 9:42 pm

    So sorry to hear you’ve been having a tough time! I hadn’t heard of Talkspace so thanks for sharing. As you said private therapy can be expensive. This could also be a good way to get to people who don’t want to ask a Dr for help. #mg

  15. Rhyming with Wine

    February 27, 2018 at 6:14 am

    Tracey I’m so sorry that you’re going through such a tough time at the moment. I suffer with anxiety too and I understand how debilitating the condition is at times. I hadn’t heard of the online service but it definitely sounds like a support network to explore. Sending love – and may I please just add: WOW! Hogwarts Express! 😍🚂 Thanks for linking up with us xx #DreamTeam

  16. Susan Mann

    February 20, 2018 at 2:09 pm

    I wish I could crochet. This is a really interesting read, I think it is essential to have a balance. xx #mondaystumble

  17. Susan Mann

    February 20, 2018 at 2:09 pm

    I wish I could crochet. This is a really interesting read, I think it is essential to have a balance. xx #mondaystumble

  18. Michelle Kellogg

    February 20, 2018 at 1:54 pm

    Sometimes you need a break Tracey. I am so glad you have support though because that is essential to keeping our mental health balanced and in check. Sometimes I just need to be left alone for a bit in order to recharge my batteries and check in with myself. Meditation helps me with that but it’s not easy when you have and 11 year old who is constantly trying to talk to you about all of his stories and ideas (which I love) but all I want to do is be left alone. However, I have learned to compromise on it because I know one day he won’t want to tell me every little thing that pops into his head lol. So I meditate and write after he goes to sleep. That is helpful and helps me fall asleep faster:) #MondayStumble

  19. Sarah

    February 20, 2018 at 12:39 am

    Love the crochet! I can never get the hang of it myself but I can knit just fine! Just remember the dark times get better, I’m in a bad spot too at the moment and it sounds like you’ve got some great self care tips here that I need to try out!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 20, 2018 at 3:59 am

      Its funny how generally speaking people can do one or the other. I am hopeless at knitting xx

  20. Ross Hunt

    February 19, 2018 at 9:19 pm

    Stay strong. It’s great that you seem to have a very positive, determined attitude to beating the anxiety. And keep talking, I know talking helps me a lot too! Always Available to discuss mental health 😀

  21. Chloe Day

    February 19, 2018 at 6:04 pm

    Oh I hope that the online resource works well for you. The train is looking good I can’t wait to see the end results #MondayStumble

  22. Sophie

    February 19, 2018 at 3:56 pm

    Oh I’m glad to hear that Mrs A. It’s good to talk to someone and that text service sounds perfect. I also love that Hogwarts Express! It’s huge! Well done. Take care. #mondaystumble

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 19, 2018 at 4:11 pm

      It is growing daily 😂

  23. Modern Gypsy

    February 19, 2018 at 3:52 pm

    Hogwarts Express crotchet – now that is an ambitious project! It’s looking good, too. And yay for online therapy. Hope it goes well. 🙂

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 19, 2018 at 4:10 pm

      Its either a very brave or a very silly project. Havent decided which one yet 😂

  24. Jeff

    February 19, 2018 at 2:20 pm

    I do hope all work out for you. Online therapy sounds like a great idea. I know it’s something my daughter could use as face to face talking is hard for her.
    Also my kids would go crazy for your Crochet Hogwarts Express train. That looks amazing!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 19, 2018 at 2:23 pm

      Face to face talking is something a lot of people find very difficult xx

  25. Tracy Albiero

    February 19, 2018 at 2:05 pm

    You are wise to realize that you needed some extra TLC. Please post pics of the Hogwarts train when you are done! #mondaystumble

  26. Blogfox14

    February 19, 2018 at 12:46 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve been having a difficult time. I love the train idea! I hope you start to feel a little better xx

  27. Enda Sheppard

    February 19, 2018 at 11:08 am

    That is some train of though!! I think it is such a good idea to keep busy, doing something that occupies you without being too demanding. Fair play and hope you come out of this soon. The weather does have such a bearing on things and thank whoever it is getting better and brighter. #MondayStumble

  28. Stephanie Simpson

    February 19, 2018 at 10:11 am

    I am pretty much in the same boat right now. I was made redundant when my maternity ended last month. I’ve been applying left right and centre with only 2interviews one i missed out on marginally. But my mental health has been in the gutter for a while now and those professionals that are supposed to be helping arent 😣 i would like to say it gets better but even though im sure it does i would be a hypocrite. So sending love x

  29. Jan

    February 17, 2018 at 11:17 am

    That’s interesting, Tracey! I might have a look at that ,now I can’t afford my private therapist (at least, not regularly).

  30. Misa

    February 16, 2018 at 9:25 pm

    That train looks awesome – cannot wait to see it finished!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 16, 2018 at 9:26 pm

      Thank you xx

  31. Pickinguptoys

    February 16, 2018 at 6:55 pm

    Sounds like a great idea, I know someone I will suggest this to as he would never in a million years ring anyone for help and his anxiety would be way too bad but this sounds like a brilliant alternative!

    1. hooks_and_dragons

      February 16, 2018 at 6:56 pm

      I hope it helps xx

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